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My best friend's husband is having an affair.
| Anon: My best friend's husband is having an affair. | June 2, 2009, 11:08 am |
| I'm writing to you, as I really don't know what to do. I've just discovered that my best friend's husband is having an affair. Someone who knows us all told me that he had seen them together, they weren't kissing but they were holding hands outside a local pub! He apparently looked the other way when he saw the person he knew coming towards him. What should I do? I know it would break my friend's heart if she found out, but I can't just sit and watch her be cheated on. | |
| re: My best friend's husband is having an affair. by Experience Matters | June 2, 2009, 11:42 am | |
| Before you start breaking any news to anyone, you need to get your facts straight. It sounds to me as if you and your friend may have been watching too many TV soaps and have jumped instantly to one conclusion. Most people who are having affairs don't parade it locally while their friends walk past. Obviously, I have no idea if it's true or not but you do need to be sure before you act. Ideally, • Ask the friend who saw them to have a word with him and bring it into the open. • Suggest if he feels uncomfortable about doing this, that you go with him. I'm assuming that, as it's your best friend's husband, you know him reasonably well. • Tell him what was seen and that you feel you need to tell his wife but want to talk to him first • Have an open mind don't go having already decided he is guilty • Listen to what he has to say If it's all above board and he was having lunch with a work colleague, he'll be happy to tell you. But if you think he's lying, you should consider saying to him that you plan to tell his wife what you know. Not an easy thing to do but one that most of us would want our friends to have the courage to do. You should be prepared, though, for the fact that your friend may end up 'blaming' you for being the bearer of bad tidings and that your friendship could suffer as a result. |
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