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My friends don't ask me to go out with them anymore.

Judy: My friends don't ask me to go out with them anymore.

August 7, 2009, 11:09 am

I work full time and a group of my friends don't. I'm tired when I get home and don't want to go out much during the week. My friends usually meet one or two evenings a week and I usually refuse when the arrangements are made. I had begun to notice that they weren't going out as much, or so I thought. I commented on this to one of them and she said that they were still going out but had stopped asking me, as I always said no. I feel so upset because I don't want to be excluded.

re: My friends don't ask me to go out with them anymore. by Experience Matters	August 7, 2009, 11:43 am
It sounds like your friends are feeling a bit rejected by you. What came into my mind when I read your letter was "all work and no play makes Jill a dull girl!" I think it's important for you to look at your work/life balance. My hunch is that you'll find yourself energised by a good evening out and less worn out. I suggest you meet your friends for a chat. Tell them that you miss them and you're sorry you've been saying no. Explain that you get very tired working and that weekday evenings aren't the best for you. See if they would agree to sometimes go out at the weekends to ring the changes. Suggest you go out once a week with them or even fortnightly so you keep in touch. Don't forget: friends are very important and, like any relationship, they need nurturing.

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