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argumentative teenagers
| julia: argumentative teenagers | July 8, 2010, 4:39 pm |
| My lovely children have turned into argumentative and disobedient teenagers. We row all the time and I have to keep reminding myself I like them! It may be just a phase, but what can I do to make things a bit easier? | |
| re: argumentative teenagers by Susan | August 24, 2010, 10:56 am | #6 |
| You made a big mistake never tell them their boy or girlfriends are awful. Tolerate them and they'll soon give them up. If thy don't it's their life and their choice. | ||
| re: argumentative teenagers by Jule | August 22, 2010, 10:56 am | #5 |
| I'm so disappointed in my daughter. She was such a lovely girl until she met the ghastly boyfriend. Now she's rude and sulks. We told her we feel about him. I thought she'd see sense , instead she's spending most of her time at his home so I have litle influence. I'm at my wits end | ||
| re: argumentative teenagers by Keren | August 10, 2010, 5:04 pm | #4 |
| Teenagers do think differently: they’re full of hormones that seem to take over, their brains are not fully adult and they’re struggling with the painful separation from their parents as they grow up to become independent people. Who best to target during this confusing time than their parents! But you don’t need to tolerate abuse and upset. Sit down with them and agree minimum goals, the least you can accept. Praise them if they achieve these or exceed them and agree a sanction if they don’t. This way you’ll get through these years fairly peacefully until they emerge the other side as considerate adults. | ||
| re: argumentative teenagers by peter | August 4, 2010, 5:11 pm | #3 |
| yes. it happens. They are just 'not your friends' any more. They are breaking free and it is as hard for them as it is for you to accept. | ||
| re: argumentative teenagers by Sasha | July 27, 2010, 5:10 pm | #2 |
| yes. It does happen! and it will get better! the worse one wass my son. (now 20). Started probably a year in to secondary school and got worse and worse. Verbally abusive to both myself and my husband. Refused to speak to my husband most of the time. Grunted rather than answered with words, unless he was shouting about something. I found it very upsetting and always tried to keep the peace usually by backing down. I hate arguments and people shouting. Boys are so loud as well! Got slightly better in later teens and got better again when he had regular girlfriend. Even though now he is still bored, can't find job etc etc. he is actually talking quietly to me mostly and sometimes to my husband. He's less grumpy, less grunty, less verbally abusive, So yes. It does get easier. I think the only advice I would give is that instead of shouting back (which isn't easy) just listen. That's all they want really. Just listen, don't give advice or tell them what to do, but don't give in to demands. Just listen, nod, agree, and carry on. And try not to let it get to you. They do turn in to much nicer adults | ||
| re: argumentative teenagers by Clare | July 8, 2010, 10:55 am | #1 |
| I know when you're going through it you think this phase will never pass but it does. By mid twenties 95% of them are back to normal and actually quite nice. | ||
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